~*my fairy tale*~

Wednesday, November 22, 2006

爱人和被爱

  被爱是幸福的。爱人总是痛苦的。
  好不容易调试好心情再次说服自己积极面对眼前的挑战,却还是被浇了一身冷水。
  说我爱逃避现实,又或者自暴自弃也好,又不由自主地开始想念过去。过去几个月一直浮现在脑海里的念头又再次浮现。
  是我过去被宠坏了吗?过去眼前是大把的机会,背后有疼爱我的人。如今放眼看去,一直觉得战战兢兢,不知几时会踏上导火线而惹来一身祸。
  咬紧牙根深呼吸看来不是长久的办法。
现在,也许金钱才能够买到我渴望的快乐。

The One, Right Person Wrong Time or Wrong Person Right Time?

Some old frens of mine from good old JC days are trying to find out whether the people that they are dating are "The One"....one said if she's able to do boring stuff with the person and doesn't find anyone else she hopes to marry even more, the person will be the one, another said if a guy is willing to change for a girl then she is the one, a third mentioned about how much a person is "valued", the more valuable, the more likely he/she is the one.

Honestly, I really am clueless about how to identify "The One". For me, before i start any relationship, unless I see it going somewhere, i.e. end up with marriage at the end of the road, i won't take the plunge. The other is always the one for me I guess.

Was chatting to one of the old frens earlier and the conversation moved on to finding the right person. Relationship is a matter of timing and depending on which school you subscribe to, when things don't work out, it's either the right person but the wrong time ; or the wrong person but the right time.

As he said, if you're not with the right person, it'll feel like you are swimming in tar. I can't agree more. No matter which direction you take it's always gonna be a sticky, murky, dead end.

To him, he subscribes to the case where it's the right person but the wrong time as we are all only 24, or going to 24 in my case, considerably young and things are going pretty well regardless of whether we've met who we think is Mr or Miss Right or not...My take on this is that although things may seem to be progressing well but it's not at it's best. It's always nice to have someone to share your life with regardless of which point in life u belong to. To me, it's the right time all the time, just that the person may not be the right one who would stick with you true the good times and bad for eternity. But hopefully, things are like what he said, n our group of 6 wouldn't have to end up x years later still meeting the wrong person at the right time.

Some pretty random stuff to fill my long absence from blogging.... came back early Sunday morning and have tons of things to attend to....haven't had time to organise my fotos from the trip. All in all a pretty gd trip n i'm definitely much better now... will post pictures of my adventures n misadventures (heads up: it has to do with my hair... look out for pictures... if i decide to put them up...too embarassing) once i manage to steal some time! Watch out for it!